Healing Starts with Resonance
If you’ve read countless self-help books, taken every meditation retreat under the sun, only to perpetually struggle to turn toward yourself with kindness and warmth, then I’d love to share the neuroscience of resonance with you. Resonance changes EVERYTHING.
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Pick a collection below to learn how trauma impacts the brain, and how to use resonance to heal, change and grow.
Depression
Tired of Feeling Depressed? Learn More About How to Heal the Freeze, Collapse and Despair of Depression.
Self-Criticism
Self-Hatred Is the Result of Traumatic Experiences. Healing Our Critical Inner Voice Is Possible.
Healthy Relationships
Brains Develop Patterns in Childhood That Impact How We Relate to Others. But Brains Can Change.
Reactivity
Sick of Flipping Your Lid? Learn How To Calm Down and Teach Your Brain Peace and Collaboration.
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Resonant Language and Self-Healing: an interview with Sarah Peyton
In this interview with MysticMag, Sarah talks about how resonant language, time travel, and the unconscious contract work can release deeply held trauma and create lasting change.
The protective and life-serving force of disgust
Disgust is a VITAL emotion that serves as a protective and helpful force for our personal transformation. Disgust can transform our ...
What are Unconscious Contracts?
I haven't found any other process that allows us to so thoroughly disentangle the deeply patterned emotional responses and sabotage ...
What is self-resonance (and why does it matter?)
We are given a sense that we make sense (or not) by our mothering people in a key phase of attachment bonding that occurs between 0 ...
Understanding Rage and Honoring Boundaries in Healing Trauma
In our culture, rage is considered mostly unacceptable, especially by women. But rage is one of our eight circuits of emotion and ...
Climate anxiety isn’t a disease. It’s a normal response to a world on fire
Climate anxiety is not primarily a disease. Instead it is an understandable reaction to the magnitude of the environmental problems ...
How Family Constellations Help Us Heal Intergenerational Trauma
Our bodies, quite literally, hold the trauma and stress of the past, including painful childhood experiences and the traumas of the ...
Truth Not Trauma: Understanding Relational Trauma and the Brain
Once we understand how trauma impacts our mammalian circuitry (Jaak Panksepp's 8 circuits of emotion and motivation), we begin to see ...
Panksepp’s Circuits of Emotion and Motivation (and why it matters for healing trauma)
Working with shame is often really about disgust, and how we learn as little ones to turn toward the self with disgust which evolves ...
Understanding Systemic and Collective Trauma
Once we understand how individual nervous systems respond to trauma, we can apply those understandings to larger bodies (family ...
Reclaiming our Bodies from Patriarchy and Inner Oppression
I spoke recently with Kris Steinnes on her Voices of Women podcast about patriarchy and the inner oppression we experience as we are ...
10 Key Concepts of Resonant Healing
Learn Sarah's 10 Key Concepts of Resonant Healing to support healing movement and transformation of anxiety, depression, disorganized ...
White Supremacy, Shame and Unconscious Contracts
We believe we enter into healing our trauma as individuals. But trauma is not individual, it is collective. Similarly, our healing is ...
What the heck is Relational Neuroscience?
What is relational neuroscience?Relational neuroscience is an integrated field of study of what brains do in relationship. Also known ...
Healing Loneliness: Moving out of Avoidant Attachment
The hallmark of having been raised by left hemisphere parents is avoidant attachment, which often manifests as a deep, lifelong ...
The Surprising Root of Self-Sabotage: Unconscious Contracts
What needs are you meeting by remaining small? Surprisingly, most often those needs are survival and integrity. How do you then ...
Reassurance Doesn’t Heal Trauma, but Resonance Does (Part 1 of a Podcast Series)
This interview is the first of a three-part series with Guy MacPherson of the Trauma Therapist Podcast. (Listen to part 2 here, part 3 ...
How marijuana impacts the brain and helps us with reactivity
When I was 12 years old, I tried smoking marijuana for the first time. It was sunset in the winter in interior Alaska, where the ...
How to Heal Trauma: Time-Traveling with Resonance
Bringing resonance and accompaniment back to our wounded selves is the key to healing brains that have been fragmented by traumatic ...
Understanding Attachment: How the Micro-moments of our Lives Create Us
My mother was fractured by trauma. Her reflections of me shifted every time she blinked. Her inability to see and reflect my ...
How to Befriend and Heal Your Inner Critic
Healing our inner voice begins with understanding what it wants. I recently appeared on Dr. Trevor Blattner's podcast, The Top 1%, ...
Why Joy and Play are Hard to Access (and What To Do About It)
Joy and the PLAY circuit are the most vulnerable emotional circuitry we have as humans. Our capacity to experience joy is especially ...
How To Heal Guilt and Shame with Resonance
What can neuroscience bring us about how to heal guilt and shame, and practice radical self-acceptance, in the context of the world we live in where to be alive is inherently compromising the lives of others?
How trauma leads to depression and how to heal
We know from the insights of relational neuroscience that permanent shifts and healing change are created when we meet ourselves with warmth, not shame or force. Healing depression starts with self-warmth. Here's how.
How to Work with Depression
Some of you know, but perhaps many don't, that I spent most of my early and adult life smothered by chronic, unwavering, deeply ...
Guided meditation: Transform your brain with self-warmth
My mission is to support self-warmth, joy and compassion by sharing the science of how our brains can change, I want to share ...
Accessing Intuition, Surrendering into Uncertainty and Discovering Ourselves Through Constellations
I’ve been thinking about lately about intuition, and how lost and disconnected I felt for years, where I longed for access to my own ...
The Unconscious Contract that Makes for Bad (or No) Sex
Ronnie, I’d like to talk with you about our sexual experience.” “Okay, Jan,” says Ronnie. Ronnie says this even though, inside, Ronnie ...
How To Build Inner Resonance: Sarah Peyton on the Therapy Chat Podcast
https://empathybrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/TherapyChat_EP116_v2.mp3 In this episode from the Therapy Chat podcast, ...
Healing the Inner Critic: How Resonant Language Changes Brains
Resonant attention and language changes the way we see ourselves. With our new eyes, we start to transform our experiences of shame, rage, terror and self-doubt into the sense that we are enough, just as we are. This interview breaks down the neuroscience of language in layperson's terms and explains how the way we talk to ourselves can change and heal over time, quieting the lacerating judgments of the default mode network (aka - the critical inner voice).
The Neuroscience of Privilege, Power and Status
Understanding how our brains operate in relation to power, privilege and status is important if we wish to build a world that works for all. This article gives an overview of the brain tendencies we have in relationship to groups, and provides remedies to counteract the automatic labor-saving devices of our human brains (which often prevent us from seeing the fullness of others, and our own, humanity).
How to Work With Unconscious Contracts
When I was walking my dog last night I ran into a rigid place inside myself. For any of you who've worked with me for a while, you ...
Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work
In order to belong, survive or honor our families, we make unconscious and silent agreements with ourselves, our caregivers, or the world, which can keep us feeling stuck, small and constrained. When working with addictions and compulsive behaviors, we can use unconscious contract work to touch on, bring healing to, and release ourselves from agreements that are no longer serving us.
