What are Unconscious Contracts?

Sep 18, 2022Unconscious Contracts

I haven’t found any other process that allows us to so thoroughly disentangle the deeply patterned emotional responses and sabotage we enact on ourselves.


Untangling unconscious contracts is deeply powerful work, and is the focus of my new year-long course, Integrating the Shadow: a 12-month Journey to Meet the Unconscious

What are Unconscious Contracts?

In this video, I explore the contracts we unconsciously make with ourselves, often when we are very young, that end up becoming self-destructive behaviors, which I call Unconscious Contracts. Through acknowledging the truth of what these contracts are trying to serve, while also holding that they are coming at a cost to our well-being, we can begin to transform the self-defeating patterns.

In order to address and overcome traumas, we first have to understand and name them. By four months old, we learn to restrict our emotional expression to only the faces that our primary caregiver can accurately reflect back to us. In other words: we learn to make ourselves fit into a box that is determined by our primary caregiver.

Understanding this piece of relational neuroscience helps us begin to have compassion as we encounter the roots of our unconscious contracts. You can watch more videos about unconscious contracts here, or join my 2023 year-long Unconscious Contracts learning and practice group (we’ll be meeting throughout 2023, you can join anytime and receive recordings to catch up!)


Dive into the next meeting of a year-long series exploring unconscious contracts live with Sarah!

Join Sarah Peyton and Jaya Manske for this three-week deep dive into chapter 8 of Your Resonant Self Workbook, part of a year-long extended journey into Your Resonant Self Workbook, Integrating the Shadow

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Two of the classes, introduction to the shadow and attachment as well as the class on ambivalent attachment will be taught by Jaya Manske and the class on avoidant attachment will be taught by Sarah Peyton.

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Sarah Peyton, international speaker and facilitator, has a passion for weaving together neuroscience knowledge and experiences of healing that unify people with their brains and bodies.

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