What are Unconscious Contracts?
I haven’t found any other process that allows us to so thoroughly disentangle the deeply patterned emotional responses and sabotage we enact on ourselves.
Untangling unconscious contracts is deeply powerful work, and is the focus of the Your Resonant Self Workbook. Download the book’s free meditations here!
What are unconscious contracts?
In this video, I explore the contracts we unconsciously make with ourselves, often when we are very young, that end up becoming self-destructive behaviors, which I call Unconscious Contracts. Through acknowledging the truth of what these contracts are trying to serve, while also holding that they are coming at a cost to our well-being, we can begin to transform the self-defeating patterns.
In order to address and overcome traumas, we first have to understand and name them. By four months old, we learn to restrict our emotional expression to only the faces that our primary caregiver can accurately reflect back to us. In other words: we learn to make ourselves fit into a box that is determined by our primacy caregiver.
Understanding this piece of relational neuroscience helps us begin to have compassion as we encounter the roots of our unconscious contracts. You can watch more videos about unconscious contracts here, or in my upcoming online course exploring this work through my new book.
Dive into unconscious contracts live with Sarah in June 2021!
What do we do when we realize that the meaning we have made and the promises we have made ourselves are not actually helping us, but are harming us? In this nine-week book course we will look at the different kinds of unconscious contracts and work as a group and in breakouts to begin to name, disentangle and release the spiderwebs of unknown agreements we have with ourselves which keep us from being with the world as it is.