Attachment is the way our brains and bodies understand and predict relationships and how we learn to stay emotionally safe and regulate our nervous systems in relationship with others.
Attachment styles are based on learned behavior and experiences that have led us to create mostly unconscious decisions about how to keep ourselves safe in relationships, and they change over time as we heal and learn to trust ourselves and others.
Read my blog posts below to learn more about attachment theory, including avoidant attachment, ambivalent or anxious attachment, disorganized attachment, and healing attachment disorders and wounds.
We are given a sense that we make sense (or not) by our mothering people in a key phase of attachment bonding that occurs between 0 and 4 months old. We can use self-resonance to re-pattern attachment disruptions that may have occurred, and build a healthy secure...
In our culture, rage is considered mostly unacceptable, especially by women. But rage is one of our eight circuits of emotion and motivation. In this podcast interview, we discuss how rage helps us understand when our boundaries have been violated. Why is rage so...
Working with shame is often really about disgust, and how we learn as little ones to turn toward the self with disgust which evolves into shame for the self. Understanding emotional circuitry helps us bring compassionate understanding to ourselves, and learning to...
Learn Sarah's 10 Key Concepts of Resonant Healing to support healing movement and transformation of anxiety, depression, disorganized attachment, PTSD and more. What are the 10 Key Concepts of Resonant Healing?There is plenty of advice out in the world about how to...
The hallmark of having been raised by left hemisphere parents is avoidant attachment, which often manifests as a deep, lifelong loneliness, a tendency to push others away and a struggle to find life’s meaning. What is attachment?Attachment isn't simply a code word for...
Bringing resonance and accompaniment back to our wounded selves is the key to healing brains that have been fragmented by traumatic experience. This is called many names, for example: CRM Comprehensive Resource Model (CRM)® I call it the Time Traveling with Resonance...
My mother was fractured by trauma. Her reflections of me shifted every time she blinked. Her inability to see and reflect my experience as a baby is an example of attachment trauma, sometimes called attachment injury or attachment disorder. What is...
https://empathybrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/TherapyChat_EP116_v2.mp3 In this episode from the Therapy Chat podcast, Sarah talks with Laura Reagan, LCSW-C about the neuroscience of language, and why it's important to talk kindly to ourselves.
What the heck is ventral vagal, and what does it have to do with fight, flight and freeze? When we are in ventral vagal, we have a sense that we are safe and we matter. In this video I describe the mysterious beauty that happens in our bodies when we are in social engagement (the nervous system state of ‘ventral vagal’). Enjoy!