Juicy Relational Skills to Heal Shame: 3-Part Workshop Series

How does shame hijack our capacity for intimacy? How can we heal our shame and find each other?

Join Sarah for this special three-part workshops to dive deep into the neuroscience of shame, and skill-build resonant practices for healing.

How does our shame impact our ability to connect with others? What would happen if we could release the contracts that sabotage our capacity for intimacy with others? Who would we be? How would we love?

In this year-long program, the answers to these questions come with experiences of warm and resonant understanding. We untangle the knots of trauma that keep us from our full expression, and unblock the flow of our life energy by freeing ourselves from shame. A major key is found when we discover the importance of how alarmed aloneness stamps every moment of our lives. In this program, we learn the relationship between shame and aloneness, and we learn processes and skills to heal this shame.

Please join Sarah Peyton for a 3-part exploration of the foundational concepts of Sarah’s books, Your Resonant Self, and especially its accompanying workbook, and learn how to apply those concepts to our relationships with ourselves and our closest people, to work toward more connection, intimacy, and joy with our beloveds.

Participants are welcome to join this online exploration in pairs, alone, or with friends or family (for a special pricing offer of 2 for the price 1 enrollment – bring a friend/lover/partner/family member for free!)

This event series includes three parts:

Part 1: April 26-28, 2024: Understanding Shame and Resonance
Part 2: July 12-14, 2024: Healing Developmental Shame
Part 3: November 15-17, 2024: Healing Shame in Relationship.

This event series includes 3 bonuses, including group skill-building and practice sessions between the three events to begin to work with and untangle the relational dynamics in our closest connections. The bonuses (worth almost $1200) and the 2-for-1 promotion (another $1000) add up to over $2000 in value that you get for free by signing up for the full events series. We hope you’ll join us!

This Online Series Includes Three Events:

Juicy Relational Skills to Heal Shame Part 1: Understanding Shame and Resonance

What is the root cause of shame? What actions cause us to react to others with shame and how long does it take for our bodies to calm? What is the role of alarmed aloneness in shame? How does everyday stress play a part? What is the impact of our trauma histories on shame and on our relationships? Do we get to relax and laugh in our relationships again? Learn the role implicit memory plays in shame, and how we can use resonance skills to transform shame into relaxation and warmth.

This event is part 1 of a 3-part series exploring resonance and relationships, how we can use the foundational concepts of Sarah’s books, Your Resonant Self and its accompanying workbook, to transform relationships with those we are closest to. This event is available as a 2-for-1 enrollment (purchase one registration and you’ll be able to invite another person for free!)

You are welcome to register for any of the three individual events in the 3-part series, however, registering for the full 3-Part Immersion might be a good fit if you’d like to access the content bonuses and bonus group skill-building/practice sessions.

Part 1: April 26-28, 2024

During our first weekend together, we will cover the following topics via lectures interspersed with experiential exercises:

  • The circuits of emotion and motivation
  • PANIC/GRIEF and alarmed aloneness: their relationship to shame
  • Attunement and resonant language
  • Reassurance vs Resonance
  • An introduction to trauma and retraumatization in shame
  • A simple time travel for friends and couples
  • Self-blame 101: Transforming self-blame into mourning
  • Unconscious Contracts and how they lead to shame

Juicy Relational Skills to Heal Shame Part 2: Healing Developmental Shame

Do we really exist for ourselves? Do we expect others to be able to see us with generous eyes? Are the others around us real, complex and alive, people to our brains? How does shame start in our adult relationships? What is the role of the instrumental brain? How does contempt contribute to shame? Learn about and begin to transform the contracts that lead to shame, prevent true expression and authentic relationship.

This event is part 2 of a 3-part series exploring resonance and relationships, how we can use the foundational concepts of Sarah’s books, Your Resonant Self and its accompanying workbook, to transform relationships with those we are closest to. This event is available as a 2-for-1 enrollment (purchase one registration and you’ll be able to invite another person for free!)

You are welcome to register for any of the three individual events in the 3-part series, however, registering for the full 3-Part Immersion might be a good fit if you’d like to access the content bonuses and bonus group skill-building/practice sessions.

Part 2: July 12-14, 2024

This 3-day immersion weekend will cover the following topics via lectures interspersed with experiential exercises:

  • Attachment patterns, shame and warmth
  • Unconscious contracts that create shame in relationships
  • I-You language
  • Warm curiosity and questions
  • The right hemisphere and shame
  • How inadvertently breaking contracts leads to shame
  • Conclusion
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Juicy Relational Skills to Heal Shame Part 3: Healing Shame in Relationship

What knowledge about attachment and shame gives us leverage to really begin to see ourselves and each other? How are attachment and alarmed aloneness interwoven? Learn to tell the difference between instrumental and relational connections, and begin to walk the path toward more richness, meaning and intimacy. Practice resonant language in relationship with yourself and others, and discover your own sweetness.

This event is part 3 of a 3-part series exploring resonance and relationships, how we can use the foundational concepts of Sarah’s books, Your Resonant Self and its accompanying workbook, to transform relationships with those we are closest to. This event is available as a 2-for-1 enrollment (purchase one registration and you’ll be able to invite another person for free!)

You are welcome to register for any of the three individual events in the 3-part series, however, registering for the full 3-Part Immersion might be a good fit if you’d like to access the content bonuses and bonus group skill-building/practice sessions.

Part 3: November 15-17, 2024

This 3-day immersion weekend will cover the following topics via lectures interspersed with experiential exercises:

  • Shame patterns in adult relationships
  • Contracts not to fully show up
  • Working with the aftermath of previous traumatic relationships
  • Identifying the instrumental brain
  • Dismantling contempt
  • Conclusion

Event Details

When?

This event series is a three-part event; each of the three online events stretches over 3 calendar days, starting from 5pm-8pm on day one (Friday), then Saturday and Sunday from 9-12pm, 1-3pm Pacific time.

Part 1: April 26-28, 2024: Understanding Shame and Resonance
Part 2: July 12-14, 2024: Healing Developmental Shame
Part 3: November 15-17, 2024: Healing Shame in Relationship

What To Expect:

Each day we alternate between short lectures on neuroscience concepts, followed by experiential exercises to explore and practice the concepts. The experiential components of this series will feature skill-building exercises to help you connect to others and yourself; resonant language, unconscious contracts to help you untangle what blocks connection with self and others, and time travel resonance. In between the three workshops, participants will have bonus skill-building sessions to untangle and heal shame, and have access to supplemental online material to continue practicing the concepts in real life.

Bonuses:

In addition to the sessions above, registration includes:

Who is the course for:

Heal and learn together with family, friends or partners, or join for your own personal exploration. This event is being offered as a two-for-one enrollment, and you are welcome to join with a partner, friend, family member, or anyone else you’d like to share this learning experience with.

Beginners are welcome! No prior experience is necessary and we welcome any and all participants to come and learn how to build and practice kinder, more loving and connected relationships from friendships to co-workers to partnerships.

Cost:

FULL SERIES:

Early bird rate: $1280 (2 for 1 enrollment) if registered and paid by April 14, 2024
Regular price: $1600 (2 for 1 enrollment) if registered and paid after April 14, 2024

INDIVIDUAL EVENT:

Early bird rate: $650 (2 for 1 enrollment) See each individual event for early bird registration deadlines
Regular price: $800 (2 for 1 enrollment)

1:1 Resonant Assistant Support is Available

Scholarship Information

Partial scholarships may be available after April 14, 2024. Write to [email protected] after April 14 to inquire.

CEUs Available:

We are delighted to offer up to 36 hours for psychologists and social workers for this course ($60 additional fee). Chicago Counseling Associates has been approved by the Illinois Department of Financial and Professional Regulation to sponsor continuing education for social workers and psychologists. CCA maintains responsibility for this program and its content. Live attendance is required to receive CEUs.

Please Note:

  • In order to secure the early-bird rates, you must register and pay by the dates listed.
  • Your tuition payment is transferable, but it is non-refundable.
  • This work is not therapy and is not a substitute for therapy. If you have a sense that you would be destabilized by yourself or others speaking about difficult events, then this course may not be for you. While we hope that the processes and information that we share can be of use in your journey, we do not have the resources to support extreme psychological difficulties.

 

 

Receive Resonant Support

Get assistant support during classes – experience resonant support from experienced practitioners when you need it during class times.  Often, this work can have unexpected depth and touch on deeply held subconscious awareness and pain.  Getting support when we need it most helps participants to integrate, regulate, and have a felt experience of the transformative power of resonance.

The Series Comes with Three Free Bonuses

Bonus #1: Free Access to Sarah’s 2024 Neurosciece and Resonance Monthly Webinars from April to October 2024.

Free access to Sarah’s monthly 2024 Neuroscience and Resonance Webinar Series for the duration of the 3-part series (April 2024-October 2024)

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Have you ever wondered why some people’s presence, support and listening feels so good, while other people’s support doesn’t seem to have much impact? This course uses relational neuroscience to explain how to use the language of the right hemisphere to access our innate, human capacity for deep resonance with ourselves and each other.

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Bonus #3: 3 special extra sessions on healing from shame, including demos and practices (90-minutes each)

Registration in this series includes a total of 3 extra live 90-minute practice sessions with Sarah Peyton between weekend intensives (dates and times to be announced).

Immerse yourself in resonance to transform fragmentation and trauma into wholeness and transform how you see yourself and others.

What Couples Are Saying about Sarah’s
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If someone had told us six months ago that knowledge about brain anatomy would help resolve traumatic upset, we would have wondered what they were smoking! After being in Sarah’s workshops where she teaches about how our brain works and what trauma is, everything is different.

For thirty years we have interacted impulsively, re-traumatizing each other again and again by allowing reactivity to color our interactions in the mistaken belief that we could thereby shock each other into being caring. But now after studying with Sarah, we are finding that we can bring warm, compassionate understanding to ourselves and to each other more and more often, with remarkable impact on our peace of mind and peace in our household. Thank you!

~ MSJ and MTA, 2019 participants

Cost and How to Register

FULL SERIES:

Early bird rate: $1280 (2 for 1 enrollment) if registered and paid by April 14, 2024
Regular price: $1600 (2 for 1 enrollment) if registered and paid after April 14, 2024

INDIVIDUAL EVENT:

Early bird rate: $650 (2 for 1 enrollment) See each individual event for early bird registration deadlines
Regular price: $800 (2 for 1 enrollment)

Please Note:

  • In order to secure the early-bird rates, you must register and pay by the dates listed.
  • Your tuition payment is transferable, but it is non-refundable.
  • This work is not therapy and is not a substitute for therapy. If you have a sense that you would be destabilized by yourself or others speaking about difficult events, then this course may not be for you. While we hope that the processes and information that we share can be of use in your journey, we do not have the resources to support extreme psychological difficulties.
If you have questions or need help deciding whether this event is right for you, please email [email protected]

About Sarah

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Sarah Peyton, Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and neuroscience educator, integrates brain science and the use of resonant language to heal personal and collective trauma with exquisite gentleness.

Sarah is a sought-after expert who brings neuroscience expertise together with depth work, self-compassion, and the transformative potential of language. She works with audiences internationally to create a compassionate understanding of the effects of relational trauma on the brain, and teaches people how words change and heal us.

Sarah teaches and lectures internationally and is the author of three books: Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing, the companion Your Resonant Self Workbook: From Self-sabotage to Self-care, and Affirmations for Turbulent Times: Resonant Words to Soothe Body and Mind.

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When we change how we speak to ourselves, we change how our brain works.

 

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