Surprisingly, we can have a hard time being happy. Research shows that most of us unhappily ruminate at the moments when we are quiet, rather than daydreaming, which is part of the pattern of depression and anxiety. In addition, happiness, excitement and the expression of joy may have been outside our parents’ window of tolerance, which can make any foray into delight rife with impending shame, leading to false core beliefs like “I’m too big,” “I’m too much,” and “I need to change myself in order to be loved.” These implicit walls take us into the dead end of disconnection from self and others, so happiness work is key to our well-being.
This recording with powerpoint visuals covers:
- The pursuit of happiness
- The importance of a resonating self-witness
- Understanding the interplay of expression and shame
- Expanding our window of tolerance
- Starting to transform our default network (our ruminating or daydreaming self)
- Questions and time for integration