Unconscious Contracts Keep Us Stuck… Until We Release Them.

When we are little ones and we experience difficult or traumatic things alone, without warmth and resonance from others, we make agreements to make sure that scary thing will never happen again.

These are called unconscious contracts. They often have a ring of absolutism to them: I will never open my heart again. I will never trust other people. I will only rely on myself.

These agreements are genuine attempts to help ourselves, but as we age we realize that we’ve tied ourselves in knots with unsustainable vows that keep us small, keep us separate, and keep us disconnected from others. 

Want to learn to release these contracts? See the resources below.

What are Unconscious Contracts?

What are Unconscious Contracts?

I teach this process extensively, and my second book (publishing in 2021) will feature it prominently!) because I haven't found any other process that allows us to so thoroughly disentangle the deeply patterned emotional responses and emotional rules we enact on...

The Surprising Root of Self-Sabotage: Unconscious Contracts

The Surprising Root of Self-Sabotage: Unconscious Contracts

What needs are you meeting by remaining small? Surprisingly, most often those needs are survival and integrity. How do you then transcend these self-made limitations? I was teaching a multi-day training in Europe two years ago, and one of the participants, a man in...

Why Joy and Play are Hard to Access (and What To Do About It)

Why Joy and Play are Hard to Access (and What To Do About It)

Joy and the PLAY circuit are the most vulnerable emotional circuitry we have as humans. Our capacity to experience joy is especially vulnerable to the ways in which we have experienced feeling unsafe, unaccompanied, or not having a sense of mattering to those around...

The Unconscious Contract that Makes for Bad (or No) Sex

The Unconscious Contract that Makes for Bad (or No) Sex

Ronnie, I’d like to talk with you about our sexual experience.” “Okay, Jan,” says Ronnie. Ronnie says this even though, inside, Ronnie is quaking. This is not good news for Ronnie’s nervous system. Conversations about sex are painful and never end well for Ronnie....

How to Work With Unconscious Contracts

How to Work With Unconscious Contracts

When I was walking my dog last night I ran into a rigid place inside myself. For any of you who've worked with me for a while, you know that a felt sense of rigidity is a cue, a way of knowing there's something going on under the surface. This rigidity provides an...

Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work

Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work

In order to belong, survive or honor our families, we make unconscious and silent agreements with ourselves, our caregivers, or the world, which can keep us feeling stuck, small and constrained. When working with addictions and compulsive behaviors, we can use unconscious contract work to touch on, bring healing to, and release ourselves from agreements that are no longer serving us.

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Developing Your Resonant Self, One Meditation at a Time

 

Language is the starting point for the movement towards self-warmth.

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Learn How Resonant Language Can Change and Heal Your Brain

Right-hemispheric language calms our limbic system and transforms the way our brains approach stress

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Learn the Foundational Concepts of Your Resonant Self in a Weekly Book Study Group

 

Once per year, I lead a live weekly study group to learn the foundational concepts of YRS.

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Become a Certified Practitioner of Resonant Healing

 

This program is current full as the first cohort moves through the certification path.

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Breaking Free From Trauma Begins with Resonance

 

Language and resonance are the starting points for healing trauma.

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Join Sarah on May 25th for a live book launch event, featuring an unconscious contracts process and a sneak peek into the Your Resonant Self Workbook

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Learn how to hold yourself with warmth, understanding and gentleness by meeting your Resonating Self-witness

 

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