Being With: Expanding Our Window of Welcome for Depth & Difficult Things 

Do you ever feel resistance, annoyance, or a desire to advice-give when your loved ones, partners, friends or clients go to certain types of depths or emotional experiences? Learn how to expand your capacity for resonance and broaden your window of welcome for difficult things in this 8-week course with Sarah Peyton, starting in 2024.

Do you long to expand your capacity in session work to stay with your people as they reach the edges of what you are able to hold? Learn how to go to the deep places together using the technology of resonant language, unconscious contracts and time-travel, and unravel the places in you that prevent you from being-with.

Have you ever noticed, when trying to do session work or emotional processing with someone, that there are just certain types of emotions you cannot stand in other people? Do you move into advice-giving, or annoyance, or trying to offer reframes, a brighter or more positive way they could think about it? 

These are examples where something is hitting you at the edges of your window of welcome. The window of welcome is the range of emotional experience we are able to tolerate in ourselves and others.

When we encounter someone expressing emotions that exceed our window of welcome, we we shift into various strategies that take us out of resonance, of being-with the person in front of us.

Join Sarah Peyton in February, 2024 to learn how to notice when you are straying or hitting the edges of your window of welcome, and learn how to use resonant language, unconscious contract work and time-travel to expand what is possible for you to be with in other people, especially in the context of session work. We’ll explore:

How to identify and untangle unconscious contracts that block us from staying with people in certain types of emotions that hit our edges.

The importance of the window of welcome for session work and the circuits, and why we must work with them if we wish to BE WITH our people in their depth.

How to identify unconscious contracts that limit our window of welcome, and how to grow it through releasing those agreements

Working with our own alarmed aloneness to grow our windows for session work

An introduction to Jaak Panksepp’s mammalian circuits of emotion and motivation, and how to use this knowledge in our session work.

Clues and strategies for identifying the edges of our windows, and what to do about it!

The neuroscience of our “windows of welcome” and how we learn to limit our own life energy when we are young ones in ways that block us from fully inhabiting our full emotional range (and capacity to be-with)

Working with hopelessness and depression, and the importance of resonating with Joy session work


What if a practitioner’s specialty is actually making the waters of emotion familiar, livable and “home”? What if our natural birthright is the ocean of human emotions and experience, and what if clients actually need someone to come in and swim with them?

– Sarah Peyton

 This 8-Session Series Runs From Feb 7, 2024 – April 7, 2024 (skip Feb 21) 

We will meet online on Wednesdays from 10:30 AM-NOON PST | 1:30 PM EST | 6:30 PM GMT (convert to your time zone here) for a total of eight 90-minute sessions. This course will be recorded for those who want to learn asynchronously for some or all sessions.


  • Feb 7
  • Feb 14
  • Feb 28
  • March 6
  • March 13
  • March 20
  • March 27
  • April 3

(No class February 21.)

Classes will include lecture and breakout sessions to practice resonance skills and build familiarity and confidence.

What Will Participants Learn?

  • Knowledge of the circuits of mammalian emotion and motivation
  • Understanding the neuroscience of the window of welcome
  • Resonance skills for transforming your window of welcome
  • Growing familiarity with your own crucible spaces (places that are ripe for transformation)
  • How to notice and choose to move toward other’s crucible spaces
  • The neuroscience and practical skills of how to expand your window of welcome, including:
    • Time-traveling to resolve blocks to certain types of emotions and experiences
    • Identifiying and releasing unconscious contracts that block resonance for certain emotions
    • Using the 9 types of resonant language to expand your own window of welcome

Who is This Course For?

This course is specifically geared toward spaceholders, and people who are interested in therapeutic and emotional session-work, including resonance partners, empathy buddies, therapists and social workers. 

This class is more broadly open to anyone who would like to become a better listener, staying present in open and resonant attention when encountering the challenges and emotional depths of another human being. This could include relating to our loved ones, our partners and families and friends, as well as trauma that arises in activist movement spaces, or any other place where trauma and distress arise. 

Total beginners and experienced resonance practitioners are welcome. This is for anyone interested in seeing how to expand your windows of welcome during dyadic session work, to practice and receive support as supportive practitioners to have solid ground when trauma arises for those you are holding space for.

We are delighted to offer CEU hours for this course

We are delighted to offer 11 CEU hours for psychologists and social workers for this course ($30 additional fee). Chicago Counseling Associates has been approved by the Illinois Department of Financial and Professional Regulation to sponsor continuing education for social workers and psychologists. CCA maintains responsibility for this program and its content. Live attendance is required to receive CEUs.




  • Your tuition payment is non-refundable and transferable.
  • In the event that the course is postponed or canceled a full refund of tuition will be offered
  • Some additional partial scholarships may be available after January 30, 2024
  • This work is not therapy and is not a substitute for therapy. If you have a sense that you would be destabilized by yourself or others speaking about difficult events, then this course may not be for you.
  • While we hope that the processes and information that we share can be of use in your journey, we do not have the resources to support extreme psychological difficulties.


Need additional financial assistance? We will know if additional partial scholarships are available for those with circumstances that require it after January 30th, 2024. Write to [email protected] on or after January 30th to inquire.

Sarah’s Story

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I used to struggle in my closest relationships to know how to navigate high emotional states, both my own and the other person in the dyad. But learning resonance changed everything. Resonance allows us to safely join our loved ones (and be joined by our loved ones) in the watery depths. 

We’re not just standing on the shore, witnessing. We actually JUMP in with them.

This is revolutionary because it breaks some of the boundaries that we’ve been initiated into by this culture, for instance: the strange separation between provider patient, the one who knows and the one who’s the expert and the one who’s experiencing pain.

I’m here today to share what I’ve learned since then about how to heal past pains and move into a joyful relationship with ourselves using the insights of my first book, Your Resonant Self and the powerful stories and processes of my second, the Your Resonant Self Workbook.

Regardless of your age, genetic predisposition or adverse childhood experiences, your brain is capable of building new neural fibers to help self-regulate your emotions and awaken your body as a place of safety and security. This webinar is a wonderful place to start to witness and learn how to navigate emotional content without drowning, using the tool of resonance.

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When we change how we speak to ourselves, we change how our brain works.


Sign up for my Welcome to Resonance Love Letters to learn the key concepts of resonant language. You'll receive free goodies along the way like resonant guided meditations, chapters from my book, and self-exploration exercises.

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Curious about the Resonant Healing Practitioner Certification?

Watch the recording from our live Q+A call from March 26th, 2023.

This recording has the most up-to-date info about the program so you can see if it's right for you! 

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Healing from Betrayal & Abandonment is Possible


Begin the journey of self-resonance by attending the FIRST CLASS FREE on May 31st: Clear Your Circuits - Write from Your Heart: learning the healing practice of resonant writing.

Lovely, you're in! Check your email for a link to attend the free class on May 31st.