Healing from Being Ghosted: Proximal Separation and Abandonment

Have you ever experienced the profound pain of being suddenly cut off from someone you cared about, with little explanation or opportunity for closure? Or is the pain and loss of being left by someone you care about, especially when the person is still in your environment, like having a body part that is severed and walking around with no recognition that it was ever a part of you?

Do you need acknowledgement that you have thought and re-thought every possible moment of the relationship to try and figure out where you went wrong? That you feel extraordinarily tainted and also convinced that there is something wrong with you as a result of this experience of inexplicable abandonment?

Not knowing the reason why someone left you can be more difficult than being left and knowing why. This makes being ghosted a uniquely damaging form of separation.

Ghosting is the act of suddenly ending all contact with someone without explanation. Whatever the type of sudden abandonment – whether it’s from a friend, romantic partner, work colleague, family member, etc. – being ghosted causes physiological feelings of disorientation that often leave us thinking and re-thinking, “what happened? what did I do wrong?” Oftentimes, this causes us to get stuck in endlessly recurring spirals of bewilderment, grief, and self-doubt. Without resonance, being ghosted can cause anxiety, depression, obsessive recurring thoughts and memories, hypervigilance, and an inability to restfully sleep.

In this healing course, we’ll explore the emotional and physiological impacts of both ghosting and being ghosted, as well as the hidden unconscious contracts that often shape this kind of separation and our responses to it. We’ll dive into the grief and panic that can arise from this form of abandonment–what it feels like in the nervous system when a relationship ends abruptly and inexplicably, and how this can echo and amplify unresolved wounds from earlier in life. We’ll explore our unconscious contracts against abandonment, and how we can begin to shift from obsessive thinking or emotional shutdown to a place of greater self-compassion and healing. We’ll explore how to gently release these contracts, bring resonance to our grief and fear, and allow ourselves to touch into the fuller scope of what we’ve experienced.

Being known and resonated with, after being left, can begin to open the jaws of the heart that have clamped closed in the efforts to survive the panic and grief of sudden loss, and support us towards healthful opening. Through this process, we can begin to create space for expanded possibility in how we relate to ourselves, to others, and to the world around us.

Where?

The course will meet via zoom. We welcome participants from all time zones who wish to learn asynchronously for some or all of the sessions. Recordings and visuals will be made available to those who are registered for the live program (typically available within 72 hours of the live session).

When?

This 8-week course runs from March 17 – May 5, 2025 with classes meeting once a week on Monday afternoon from 1:30 PM – 2:55 PM Pacific Time  (To convert to your time zone, please click here)

What You’ll Learn Each Week:

Week 1: March 17, 2025 – What’s so hard about being ghosted?
Week 2: March 24, 2025 – How to let go of needing to understand
Week 3: March 31, 2025 – Time travel to bring our frozen selves back to life
Week 4: April 7, 2025 – Tending to our alarmed aloneness with warmth
Week 5: April 14, 2025 – Of course we’re depressed! Coming back
Week 6: April 21, 2025 – Healing dialogue with the person who is gone
Week 7: April 28, 2025 – Double binds that make us ghost
Week 8: May 5, 2025 – Letting ourselves be loved by humans

Who Is This Course For:

Anyone from total beginners to experienced resonance practitioners are welcome. This course is for anyone interested in exploring healing from proximal separation.

This course is designed specifically for anyone who has ever had recurring bewilderment or disorientation about the loss of a relationship, whether that takes the form of a divorce that still hurts, a dissolved friendship that’s still painful, a work relationship that suddenly stopped, or a family member who has disappeared without explanation. Anyone who continues to experience any kind of recurring pain connected to the loss of another person who is still living would benefit greatly from this learning and exploration.

This Course Includes Resonant Assistant Support:

Get assistant support during classes – experience resonant support from experienced practitioners when you need it during class times. Often, this work can have unexpected depth and touch on deeply held subconscious awareness and pain. Getting support when we need it most helps participants to integrate, regulate, and have a felt experience of the transformative power of resonance.

Cost:

Early bird price: $270 if registered and paid for by March 5, 2025
Regular price: $300 after March 5, 2025

Some partial scholarships may be available for this course. Please write to [email protected] after March 10, 2025 to inquire.

Continuing Education (CE Credits):

We are delighted to offer 11 CE hours for this course for licensed psychologists, social workers and counselors in the state of Illinois* ($55 additional fee). Per state regulations, as close to 100% live attendance as possible (or watching the recordings, with verification email) is required to receive CEs. Thank you, and we appreciate you for planning accordingly if you wish to receive CEs.

Please note our new sponsor organization: CEs are being sponsored by Centered Therapy Chicago (CTC), an accredited CE provider by the Illinois Department of Financial and Professional Regulation (Lic #268000085). CTC is able to provide CEs to licensed psychologists, social workers (LSWs and LCSWs), and counselors (LPCs and LCPCs) in the state of Illinois.

*For licensed professionals outside of the state of Illinois, it is your responsibility to inquire if our courses comply with the criteria set forth by your state licensing board.

Please Note:

• Your tuition payment is non-refundable (but it is transferable).
• This course will be recorded for those who want to learn asynchronously for some or all sessions.
• This work is not therapy and is not a substitute for therapy. If you have a sense that you would be destabilized by yourself or others speaking about difficult events, then this course may not be for you. While we hope that the processes and information that we share can be of use in your journey, we do not have the resources to support extreme psychological difficulties.