Finding Our Easy No: Boundaries and Attachment

Would you like to have immediate and fluid access to your own edges and to know that your “no” is a gift to yourself and others?

There is a kind of “no” that arises from deep inside the body: it is clear, fluid, and unburdened. It comes not from defensiveness or fear, but from a grounded sense of self. It’s a “no” that carries warmth, a sense of humor, and a surprising kind of intimacy.

Many of us did not grow up in environments where saying “no” was welcome. As children, we may have learned that setting limits, or having clear preferences, caused anger, collapse, or emotional withdrawal from the people we depended on most. Or, we were taught that the only way to be good children was by always being compliant. Growing up in these environments, we may have become skilled at anticipating the needs of others in order to shape ourselves around what would keep things smooth, quiet, and safe. Somewhere in the process, our needs, limits, and edges began to disappear from our awareness.

This course is an invitation to gently rediscover those edges as the fertile places where we meet the world with our love. We’ll learn about the relationship between boundaries and attachment, and how our specific early experiences shaped our nervous system’s capacity to stay in connection while also holding onto our sense of self.

Together, we will:

> Learn how different attachment styles shape our relationship with saying “no” (specifically avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized)
> Uncover and release unconscious contracts like “I will always say yes” or “I will not know that I have needs” or “I will only exist through service to others”
> Work with the nervous system–especially the vagus nerve and the two hemispheres of the brain–to support ease, presence, and clarity
> Practice a relational process called “I/You” language, which supports mutual awareness and allows both people to exist fully in the same moment

This eight-class workshop will be a space for slowly coming back into contact with the parts of ourselves that know what is true. It is a place to experience what it feels like to be whole and in relationship at the same time, and to feel viscerally safe while doing so. Together we will work on reclaiming our secure attachment and finding the “no” within ourselves, trusting it, and letting it move out into the world with grace.

Where?

The course will meet via zoom. We welcome participants from all time zones who wish to learn asynchronously for some or all of the sessions. Recordings and visuals will be made available to those who are registered for the live program (typically available within 72 hours of the live session).

When?

This 8-week course runs from September 30, 2025 – November 18,2025 with classes meeting each Tuesday morning from 10:30 AM – 11:55 AM Pacific Time (To convert to your time zone, please click here)

What You’ll Learn:

Week 1: Boundaries, Disgust, and Attachment
Week 2: Releasing Unconscious Contracts To Never Say No
Week 3: Time Traveling to Reclaim Boundaries
Week 4: Ambivalent Attachment and Boundaries
Week 5: Avoidant Attachment and Boundaries
Week 6: How Disorganization Disrupts Our Edges
Week 7: I/You Language and Boundaries
Week 8: Reclaiming Our Secure Attachment and Our Boundaries

Who Is This Course For?

This course is for anyone who struggles with boundaries and longs to feel more ease, clarity, and warmth in saying “no.” This is for anyone ready to heal old attachment wounds and discover that boundaries—far from creating distance—can actually deepen intimacy, safety, and authentic connection.

This Course Includes Resonant Assistant Support:

Get assistant support during classes – experience resonant support from experienced practitioners when you need it during class times. Often, this work can have unexpected depth and touch on deeply held subconscious awareness and pain. Getting support when we need it most helps participants to integrate, regulate, and have a felt experience of the transformative power of resonance.

Cost

Regular price: $300
Early Bird: $250

Please Note:

• Your tuition payment is non-refundable (but it is transferable).
• This course will be recorded for those who want to learn asynchronously for some or all sessions.
• This work is not therapy and is not a substitute for therapy. If you have a sense that you would be destabilized by yourself or others speaking about difficult events, then this course may not be for you. While we hope that the processes and information that we share can be of use in your journey, we do not have the resources to support extreme psychological difficulties.