Unpacking Perfectionism: Returning to Embodiment

Original price was: $370.00.Current price is: $299.00.

Do you ever notice that you are harder on yourself than you are on anyone else? Do you carry a relentless judgemental voice within you, a measuring device that has inhuman standards? Are you tired of being so hard on yourself? Would you love to feel safe enough to let go of control, and collaborate with the flow of life?

Join Sarah for an illuminating eight week exploration of the contracts and inherited traumas that keep us locked into perfectionism, and the shame and alarmed aloneness that lies at its root.

Do you often find yourself falling short of your own impossibly high standards?

Are there so many things that you’d try, if only you would release the inner pressure to be perfect?

Perfectionism, which seems like an absolute desire for life without mistakes, is actually a combination of predatory aggression against the self (or others), a forceful rigidity that precludes creativity and spontaneity, and an inability to be with the grief of what is true. When we want perfection, we are wanting for something that is unattainable and inhuman. In our perfectionism, we ourselves become inhuman. This desire–for the inhuman–is often a result of having received external shaming, predatory aggression, contempt, or disgust against ourselves or our work (what we create and produce). This can be something that happened in our own life experience, and it can also be something we’ve inherited from our parents or grandparents experiences. Since it is so tied to shame, perfectionism can expertly travel down a family lineage, holding each generation hostage with its promises of safety and beauty.

Control is an attempt to make an imperfect world perfect, to make an unsafe world safe, and to turn chaos into order. While well-intentioned, if we are trying to stop all chaos, then we are also stopping generativity, because it is from the generativity of chaos that all kinds of things are born: spontaneity, expression, surprise, discovery, delight. If we try to stop all chaos, if we deny ourselves our human fallibility, then we are stopping the life force from emerging. There is a physical cost to an immune system that is in the constant stress and aloneness of needing perfection: it is a movement towards death rather than a movement towards life.

Join Sarah Peyton this September for a resonant and warm exploration of the neuroscience of perfectionism: how it has kept us safe and how it keeps us from true safety. Over the course of eight weeks we will work to excavate and release unconscious contracts that keep us in our perfection–which can range from contracts that stop us from being shamed, to contracts that stop anyone we love from being harmed. In order to heal with perfectionism, we must address, make space for, and lovingly accompany the alarmed aloneness and shame that lie at its root. This is because whenever we are truly accompanied, we no longer need perfectionism.


The course will meet via zoom. We welcome participants from all time zones who wish to learn asynchronously for some or all of the sessions. Recordings and visuals will be made available to those who are registered for the live program (typically available within 72 hours of the live session).


This 8-week course runs from October 21, 2024 through December 9, 2024 with classes meeting each Monday afternoon from 1:30 PM – 2:55 PM Pacific Time (To convert to your time zone, please click here)

What You'll Learn Each Week:

Week 1 - October 21, 2024: Introduction to perfectionism and the instrumental brain
Week 2 - October 28, 2024: Perfectionism and Safety
Week 3 - November 4, 2024: Perfectionism and Beauty
Week 4 - November 11, 2024: Releasing Contracts of Perfectionism
Week 5 - November 18, 2024: Having Compassion for our Perfectionism
Week 6 - November 25, 2024: Perfectionism and Attachment
Week 7 - December 2, 2024: The Benefits of Being Imperfect
Week 8 - December 9, 2024: Questions and Integration

Who Is This Course For?

This course is for anyone who is interested in working with their tendencies for perfectionism and desiring a return to embodiment, as well as for those who are supporting clients with similar patterns.

This Course Includes 1:1 Resonant Support

Get assistant support during classes – experience resonant support from experienced practitioners when you need it during class times. Often, this work can have unexpected depth and touch on deeply held subconscious awareness and pain. Getting support when we need it most helps participants to integrate, regulate, and have a felt experience of the transformative power of resonance.


Regular price: $370
Early bird: $299 if purchased by September 21, 2024 (20% off)

Continuing Education (CE) Credits

We are delighted to offer 10.5 CE hours for this course for licensed psychologists, social workers and counselors in the state of Illinois* ($55 additional fee). Per state regulations, live attendance for 100% of the course time and all its sessions is required to receive CEs. Thank you, and we appreciate you for planning accordingly if you wish to receive CEs.

Please note our new sponsor organization: CEs are being sponsored by Centered Therapy Chicago (CTC), an accredited CE provider by the Illinois Department of Financial and Professional Regulation (Lic #268000085). CTC is able to provide CEs to licensed psychologists, social workers (LSWs and LCSWs), and counselors (LPCs and LCPCs) in the state of Illinois.

*For licensed professionals outside of the state of Illinois, it is your responsibility to inquire if our courses comply with the criteria set forth by your state licensing board.


  • Your tuition payment is non-refundable (but it is transferable).
  • This course will be recorded for those who want to learn asynchronously for some or all sessions.
  • This work is not therapy and is not a substitute for therapy. If you have a sense that you would be destabilized by yourself or others speaking about difficult events, then this course may not be for you. While we hope that the processes and information that we share can be of use in your journey, we do not have the resources to support extreme psychological difficulties.
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